Let's say there is a financially-stable couple (who before getting married) agreed that the did not want children, however they wouldn't do anything to drastic (permanent surgery) just in case their minds changed later.
Let's say that out of a sheer accident they become pregnant and they come to the agreement to give the baby up once it's born. What if the husband suddenly decides that he would rather keep and raise this baby ( at about 4 months through)? Even though the woman simply does not want kids?
What could the woman say to convince the man that keeping the baby would not be the best option? If you were this woman what would you do?
Some advice? Changing his mind? ?
This is a tough one because it involves a life-altering decision. If the couple had previously ruled out vasectomy or a tubal ligation because they might change their minds later about pregnancy, then I think they have to accept that %26quot;later%26quot; has arrived. So they either raise the baby together as a couple or else they separate and the husband raises the baby alone. If raising the baby is a deal-breaker for the wife, then she probably has to tell her husband to make a choice -- either he chooses her and their marriage or he chooses divorce and the baby. It's a terrible choice to force upon a man who is probably hoping to have it all -- marriage, wife and family -- and maybe figures the family part won't h
Some advice? Changing his mind? ?
It is his baby too, so she needs to consider his opinions and his thoughts. He wants to keep it and you are financially stable so keep it. Once you see the baby and hold the baby I am sure you will be the one to change your mind. Trust me, they are wonderful blessings and worth every thing you go through to get them. I would not try to change his mind. She needs to go and think about it some more before making a decision.
%26quot;What could the woman say to convince the man that keeping the baby would not be the best option?%26quot;
This assumes that that is true, and I don't know that it is.
A sad situation for all concerned.
There is probably nothing you can say to him to convince him. And if you do, he may later regret it and start to resent you. You really want that?
Life is full of changes, and he is only human. He is allowed to change his mind. And like someone else said, it is his baby too.
Before getting pregnant with my daughter (first child) my hubby and I also decided we didn't want children. To me, the thought of me being responsible for a another life was terrifying and at that time, i didn't want that responsibility, but i got pregnant. And fell in love with her at my first ultrasound. (before then i wasn't really showing and it still seemed hard to believe).
And now i have 2 children and i love them to death. They are my life.
You may still change your mind, at either your ultrasound or the first second you see your precious gift.
I honestly wouldn't try to change his mind, cause like i said, if you do, he just may come to resent you.
