My husband and I separated about 6 months ago but just recently moved back in together. It was mainly for our baby that is due in a month here. Well, things started kinda rough but hes really seen that I'm a different person and I don't act at ALL like I used to. The past couple weeks we've had a couple big fights and each time we would tell each other we hated each other and can't stand each other... blah blah blah. Also, he had pretty much told me that there was no chance of us getting back together a couple weeks ago, but hasn't said much about it recently. Well, last night he came into the room, I was already asleep and he was crying and said, %26quot;I just want you to know that even though I tell you I don't care about you, I could care less about what happens to you, and I hate you... I really don't. I care about you so much and this movie I'm watching, she died giving birth and when I thought about that happening to you, I realized my life would suck without you.%26quot;
And then after he told me that he had a few beers and came in later and we were talking and he told me he loved me... he hasn't told me that he loves me in probably 6 months. I guess my question is, even though he was drunk, do you think he could have meant it? It just seems too good to be true... and actually at first when we moved in together it felt like we were back together, but he said we weren't. He said were only there for our unborn daughter... do you think he could be changing his mind?
Could he be changing his mind? Or is it really just for our daughter?
A drunk speaks the truth... Unless they are an alcoholic...
Could he be changing his mind? Or is it really just for our daughter?
He could be or he could have just been emotional because he was tired and half looped. Get him rested and sober and have a calm conversation about it.
I think you have both started communicating maybe, that migh lead to something.
Sometimes it's takes loosing someone to realize how much they mean to you. maybe the movie was a wake up call. Remember he said he loved you before he got drunk. So you can't blame it on the booze. Take him at his word. Maybe you both can work on how to have a fight so it won't end in such hateful words.
He could be. Either way, I hope that if you two decide to stay together, you seriously work on your communication skills. Staying together for your child is a great idea, but raising your daughter in an environment where her parents are constantly arguing and yelling hateful things at each other is not.
It could be that he really is doing it for the baby, But he is a man and has not much to loose so I dont think that he would move in with you only for that fact. Deep down he cares about you and he could really mean it. Its the ones you reallly love that you fight mostly with.
And dont you dare start thinking that another man will be better, because everyone has thier short comings and no one is perfect, maybe when things start to cool of between you two you will sit him down and express how you feel, in a very light manner say how you hate fighting all the time and wish that if you guys are together for the kid then fighting wouldnt be ideal especially if your raising a kid together. Tell him how you feel and that you want a real relationship. If he still insists that he is only der for the baby then you really need to consider leaving this man, because it will be easier for him to find another girlfriend but harder for you to move on with him in the same house as you.
Try and act adult about the situation, and be the bigger person. If a fight errupts then you need to slow down and maybe not answer to fights when they come up.
Best of Luck
Ya'll have a very %26quot;see-saw%26quot; relationship.
He loves me, he loves me not.
Let me share a story with you. My aunt has been married to my uncle for over 30 years and there is not a day goes by that she tells me some story or another about his bad behavior. Watching porn, spending money, flirting with women and talking down to my aunt..
When he is in a good mood, don't know what it takes to get him in a good mood, but when he is he is charming, sweet and showers her with attention. When he is in a bad mood, and let me tell you one little thing can set him off. Anyway, I have seen him give her beautiful flowers and she just sets them aside because he has been a tyrant for day's and then sends flowers which she doesn't care about at all.
She complains about him all the time and yet stays married to him. I don't get it. She says she loves him but he is the only guy she has ever been with so what is she comparing it to.
When I see how my uncle behaves it makes me realize there is no way I would EVER date, live with or marry a man like that. Mood swings at any given moment, catting around, violence. Forget it. I would rather be alone.
Don't know the reasons why you guys are separated.
But ...You are pregnant. I hope you have friends and relatives to share your joy and support you !
Meanwhile, give yourselves time to see how things work out. Enjoy and Be happy !
May your new born change things for the better .
Well I don't think a %26quot;few%26quot; beers makes any one drunk enough to say things they don't mean. If anything he says things he doesn't mean when he is angry, and so do you. The reason he probably moved back in but said he was there strictly for your baby is because he wanted to see if you had really changed and he didn't want to give you false hope that's all. He is protecting himself from getting hurt, because he really does seem to love you. Sometimes it does take a pivotal moment to open someones eyes to what it really would be like without the other person. Sometimes it is something on tv, sometimes it's something a friend experiences, but it really makes you stop and think and appreciate what you do have. I think it's good that he has opened up to you and made himself vulnerable by telling you his feelings and I don't think you should question it. You both need to stop the unhealthy way you fight with the name calling and telling each other you hate them. Stick to the problem, and the solution and maybe you could actually resolve some issues instead of just trying to hurt each other.
