I have been dating this girl for 8 months and before I met her and at the beginning of the relationship I was thinking about kids. But I have decided that having kids is something I don't want to do ever. I know she definitley wants kids, so should I just tell her so we can split? I am 30 and she is 26. Thanks.
Am I an asshole for changing my mind and not wanting kids?
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Am I an asshole for changing my mind and not wanting kids?
Yes u must tell her so she can decide to stay or go
Tell her now.......you've been a huge waste of time for her.
yes, you should tell her so she can find a man who shares her family values.
You're not a a**hole for changing your mind. But you might want to mention it to her sometime that you've come to the decision for now that you don't want kids. but who know later on you migh change your mind again.
Tell her now so you can split dont keep her hanging on anymore . She will be hurt but thats life . Good thing you didnt marry her first .
Yah...tell her...then you gan get some other hottie.
No, you are not an @$$hole. It's better that you discovered your change of mind before marrying her. You def need to sit down and tell her that you changed your mind and the reasons for it. Let her know you will stay with her, but kids are not an option for you. If she has to have kids one day, then she'll be better off finding a man with her same dream. Do not lead her on...that would be an @$$hole thing to do.
You may change your mind again in 8 months. You should at least discuss it with her. Let her know that you have very strong doubts.
if she wants children you need to let her know, it is not that your an asshole you just had a preference change... as long as you tell her and if she stays with you, she knows you let her know before you guys were married (if you were). not wanting to have children is not something you want to keep from her
You`re not an @sshole ,all you did was let your feelings out about having kids .You should break off with her so she can find someone who thinks like she does .Everyone has the right to their own decisions .Don`t call yourself names because you let the truth out .
Yes you should tell her, because you don't want to lead her on. She can meet someone else who wants kids.
You need to let your girlfriend know about the decision that you have made if you both are making plans to be married someday. That is the right thing to do. She will have to make the decision whether she wants to be married or end the relationship. You can still change your decision someday and want children.
No, your not an asshole, just be truthful though. I think it really depends on how much you don't want kids. If you really don't want kids, then as you already know will effect the relationship you have with her, but definetely tell her. When someone really wants kids, it's something that never goes away and she might resent you for it later. I guess it's a decision she has to make. But when you tell her make sure she knows that she won't change your mind over time (girls sometimes think they can do that)
no, i dont think so. i NEVER wanted kids, some people are just not people that want kids, but i had 2 and i figured i might as well make the best of it, and be the best mom i can be. as for anymore......HELL NO! i love my kids and i don't like anyone elses. i know this may sound like i'm bitchy, but i'm just keepin it real, and you should do the same.
