Okay so heres the deal: My girlfreind and i have been dating 4 months almost 5 and we are both the same age 14. sooo we started out pretty fast i mean by like going far like pretty much second base and ya well she went away for a month and she came back and we went even further cuz we hadnt seen eachother the hole time! so she wants to slow down and idk weve tried to Sooooooooo many times but hardly ever have and i want to make her happy but i just CAN NOT SLOW DOWN! and im afraid if i dnt shell leave me. so my first ? is does anybody have any tips on slowing down?
And then to the real ? okay so taday we were talking and idk how it started but we were talking about sex and she said i want to have sex sooo shes done this b4 and i ALWAYS EVERY single time get my hopes up and she changes her mind and i care about har alot but it upsets me very much when she does this. soooo today she did this to me and im not even kidding you in less than 7 hours shes changed her mind again!!!!! And ik sex is something important but i do not understand at all whatsoever how she can keep changing her mind that quick. i told her to think about it and if she was joking about wat she said to stop but she said she was serioous and that she knows she wants to do it with me and always has but she said she doesnt know the time to do it. and iwould never pressure her into making her do this with me i want her to b comfortable cuz i think both people HAVE to want it for it to happen. so my second ? is what should i do about her changing her mind about having sex? thank you for taking the time to read this any advice would b greatly appreciated! %26gt;=]
My girlfrein keeps changing her mind what should i do?!?!?! please answer i need some advice!?
maybe u should stop putting out all of this really private and personal information for the world to see. just think if ur gf got on here and saw this and how she would feel. tht kind of stuff is really something that U and HER need to talk about. js. and im sure she feels pretty guilty herself when she changes her mind on u too uk and gets ur hopes up. i say cut her some slack becuz tht is a HUGE decision and 14 is wayyyy too young.
My girlfrein keeps changing her mind what should i do?!?!?! please answer i need some advice!?
well that sucks. your only 14. still in middle school.. wow
uh... slow down. try watching some porn but picture her instead of the star of the porn.
she keeps changing her mind because it sounds great at the time
and then she thinks about it and realizes how stupid it is
to have sex when you're not married
well maybe she thinks she's ready at the time and then later on she thinks she's not. Just give her time, if she's not ready, she's not ready right? Just dont pressure her just tell her that you'll wait till she's ready to go the whole 9 yards. If that time does come again when she says she's ready and then she says she's not ready anymore just jack off becasue that should help. Never pressure a girl into doing stuff she's not ready for and if you love her and care for her then you would wait for her no matter what. Hope this helps.
There is no real trick to slowing down relationships, you just have to want to slow down. Just think in your head, if i dont slow down, i might lose her. You have to learn to respect her and her wishes. You shouldnt try to change her mind about having sex. You both should just wait, being 14 is young, and there is a lot of risks. If you two decide not to wait, yll should both be tested for std's and def. use a condom. She is also just changing her mind because she is thinking about you but also about the risks and dangers of having sex. You should talk to her about waiting even though you may not want to. Trust me, waiting is always better in the long run.
