Me and my husband has been married to little over 2 yrs, and i am ready for a baby, we both talked about having a family before he deployed to guam,and desided that when i start working and my next ovulation date we will try for a baby , well after finding out i had a job he called his mom and told his mom and while talking about the baby situation my husband desided that he agrreed with his mom about us not having a baby, how sould i talk with him abotu this without sounding selfish?
I'm ready for a baby, but my husband keeps changing his mind?
Ultimately, it'd be wrong to bring a baby into an unwanted, unstable environment. However, I'm thinking that maybe it's just cold feet. Don't punish him - but you should really talk to him, I promise, it's not selfish. Remind him that it was something he wanted. And, as someone else here said, most men aren't fathers until they see their babies, whereas a woman can be a mother as soon as the idea is there. Good luck! Remember - COMMUNICATION!
I'm ready for a baby, but my husband keeps changing his mind?
oh it took my hubby about 5 years before i talked him into it. They just need to take their baby steps to fatherhood. I dont think that any of them are ready until they actually have the baby in their arms
His mom has no right to be included in this conversation. He said ok, I'd go with that. Stop the birth control and make him responsible. If he's the one with the issues, he should be the one taking care of the birth control issue.
Your not going to sound selfish, he knew you wanted kids before you got married, so either your going to have to tell him how your really feeling or deal with not havin kids.
his MOM?! he's married and he listens to his mom? please - unless he is a minor, you should tell him to be a man and make his own decisions and then discuss them with you - not someone else. it's unfair for him to discuss your personal matters with his mother and make decisions without you. if he is really young, however, you should consider that in your decision because he may chicken out if you had the baby %26amp; then go back with his mom %26amp; you'd be on your own. i would have to wait if it were me because he doesn't seem stable enough to do that yet and you don't want all of the responsibility to fall on you.
convice him about the joy it would be having that little person in his arms, looking up at him, and saying daddy. give him all the positive things of having a baby. and when the baby turns 5, going to kindergarten, not letting go of your hand, saying bye. and when school is over, having your child come running up to him and giving him a hug. he might say he's not ready, but all first time fathers aren't ready, the day they become ready for a baby, is the day he/she is concieved. i hope that helps!
We compromised, I wanted one before he did. I waited for a few milestones and he agreed before the rest of the %26quot;plans%26quot; were over with to start trying.
I was afraid at first too. Men are always afraid of when is the right time to have a baby. Especially if your husband is under 30. Both of my kids are grown now, and looking back, I don't regret a thing.
Marriages are meant for two people, his mother seems to not fit in the picture anymore marriages should have children
This decision should ultimately be made by the two of you only, but since he listened to his mom in this case it seems like maybe he was having doubts before that and she just confirmed it for him. Maybe he wants to have an active role in the childs early life so he wants to wait until after he gets back from Guam. Maybe he thinks you're both too young and he wants to live a little more first. Talk to him about it, ask him what his doubts are. Tell him this is something you want, but that you are also concerned about his feelings. Honesty is key to any good relationship. If you can't be honest about something so crucial, its going to be really tough to make it through a deloyment. I have seen many marriages torn apart by being so far apart for so long if the trust and honesty are not there. Do yourself and your marriage a favor by letting him know how you feel, but do it in a way that is also sympathetic to his feelings.
