i am 28 weeks pregnant with a little girl and the babies father keeps changing his mind on whether or not he wants to be involved. mainly i think it is because of his new gf...what should i say to him to keep him involved?
Babies father keeps changing his mind?
Tell him he can%26#039;t go back and forth once she is born, because you won%26#039;t put up with it. It%26#039;s no good for the child.
It%26#039;s not your job to make him be a dad...not matter how bad you may want him in yours or her life. I know that you might think that him being in her life is the best thing for her....but that is not necessarily true. If he comes in and out of her life the way he%26#039;s doing during the pregnancy, she is better off without him. It is too hard on a child to have a parent come and go, appear and disappear on them. It hurts them more than the parent not being there at all...because when the parent comes and goes, they are leaving that child over and over again. If they leave once....the child doesn%26#039;t have to go through the hurt and emotions from them leaving, repeatedly.
Be strong, pray, and make sure to surround your baby with love! If here father doesn%26#039;t want to participate, you can%26#039;t make him-and you shouldn%26#039;t. You will have way to many things to do in your life without adding the job of making him be a daddy!
Babies father keeps changing his mind?
Marry me?
This is a classic example of why marriage should come first THEN babies!
Dont tell him anything. Go to the childrens revenue office and get child support for one. You%26#039;re not going to be able to talk this guy into anything. You should let him see the baby and have him at the hospital, he%26#039;s probably scared and has this girl in his ear trying to keep him away because she%26#039;s jealous that you%26#039;re having his baby. When he sees that little girl i%26#039;m sure it will all change..
how old is he?
you don%26#039;t want him in the baby%26#039;s life if he doesn%26#039;t want to be there or has any questions. He may end up resenting the baby and she%26#039;ll see that and it won%26#039;t be good for her. Tell him to bugger off until he makes up his mind. Don%26#039;t do that to your precious baby. She doesn%26#039;t need to ever feel that her daddy doesn%26#039;t love her
I would tell him %26quot;I will make the decision for you. You are not going to be in her life and I will see you in court for child support and medical bills, loser.%26quot;
there is no reason to be bitchy like the other girl who responded
what you need to do is kick him to the curb honey
i had my son who is almost two now when i was 15
i did it without his father but with help from my family
you can do this
and ignore any negative responses
they have no idea what they are talking about
i go to church and belive in god and still got pregnant at 15
so tell them to shove it!
you will do whats best for you and your baby
its in a mothers DNA
I agree, he needs to be involved but you can%26#039;t force it. Make sure that a DNA test is done right away because next his new gf will be convincing him that it%26#039;s not his baby. Besides you%26#039;ll need the proof to be sure he pays child support....Good Luck!
if he doesn%26#039;t want to be involved with his children, well sorry to say that but i don%26#039;t think you can do anything about it!!!!! and please don%26#039;t have more babies with such an a$$holes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! good luck
Dont let him do that to you if he doesn%26#039;t want to be there FULL time all the time, then screw him. Get him for child support and live your life with your baby the way you want.
Therer is nothing you can do to convince him to be involve but that doesn%26#039;t mean that he should get away without helping support your baby. Maybe when she is here and he sees her he will come around. It just isn%26#039;t real enough for him yet.
Id try and not worry to much about him until after the baby arrives then if he Still isn%26#039;t interested in playing a part in your child%26#039;s life go and see social services.
Good luck
i would just wait and see what he does after he sees her his gf is jealous that your having his baby and not her. he doesent want to be there then go get childsupport.
This guy is pulling you along... You don%26#039;t need him. As long as supports the baby emotionally and financially that%26#039;s all that matters. If he%26#039;s being wishy-washy you don%26#039;t need him in your life anyway. That%26#039;ll do nothing but stress you out during your pregnancy.
nothing, if he doesn%26#039;t want to be involved that%26#039;s his own problem, maybe then the kid and you are better off without him in you lives. a man shouldn%26#039;t be able to pick and chose when he wants to be there for the kid, but the sad truth is, they don%26#039;t have to worry about leaving their family, we do. we are stuck taking care of the kids while they go out and do whatever they want to do, and if they don%26#039;t want to come back they don%26#039;t have to. if he doesn%26#039;t chose to be there for the kid, than don%26#039;t make him it will just make things worse.
Tell him it%26#039;s his baby whether he likes it or not. I would also add that if this girl sees him treating you like this, she%26#039;s going to wise up with a quickness and their relationship won%26#039;t last very long. His daughter should be #1 in his life.
Personally I would tell him to get lost until he makes up his mind. It would be terrible if he kept popping in and out of her life once she was here!! He needs to make up his mind BEFORE you have her!
he%26#039;s not a great guy. either they want to be with you or not. my sisters is 19 and her boyfriend has been there with her from day one. he even asked her to marry him and he%26#039;s going to school and getting all the things together for their baby. i don%26#039;t know how old you guys are but there is no excuse for him to be with someone else and leave you when you need him the most. i know that%26#039;s not what you want to hear, but you don%26#039;t have to put up with that. don%26#039;t even worry about him. you only priority is your precious baby.
