I had a miscarriage in July and have been keen to start trying again recently. We tried in December but no luck. Now it's January and during my fertile period he decided he wanted to go back to the withdrawal method but didn't tell me until he did it! Now he is saying we need more space, it seems like the goal posts are continually moving. I am trying to be patient but I am 38 in June and am keen to be pregnant. I know I am lucky to already have 2 beautiful children but I have always wanted 3 and feel that a third baby will finish off our family unit. What should I do??
My husband keeps changing his mind about having a 3rd child!?
I'm sorry to read of your miscarriage, and I don't think it's fair of your husband to have you both go through the pain of a miscarriage and then deny you the oppertunity to try again for another. He is not being honest with you, it is more than not having enough room (why didn't he bring that up when you 1st started trying for a 3rd???) Talk to him, tell him to be honest with you and give you the REAL reason. Maybe he is scared of another miscarrage. Let him know how important another one is to you. It is a joint decision, and a big one at that. Good luck in your quest.
My husband keeps changing his mind about having a 3rd child!?
I don't want to come off as being rude or too direct but it appears that you already have your answer. %26quot;Needing more space%26quot; is not a marital bonus and spells that it's not the time to push for bringing another human into the world. You also have 2 beautiful kids....I would focus on them and not keep wanting more. Lastly, and I assume you know this but the risks at 38 simply may not be worth it. Your family is complete. Take the time to soak it all up now. We have two as well and occasionally wrestle with wanting a third. They grow so fast but if you're always reaching for something new you tend to take away from what is right in front of you.
keep trying and just dont keep descussing it with ur husband and if he keeps pulling out insist that he wear a condom if that dont work or u can try giving him oral till he is to the big O then give him a min. to cool down then get on and go for a big O while riding whats what i did forget the jerk that wrote b4 me if its something u really want then u should do it and ur man wants space its probably cuz the miscarage was hard on him, i mean he did lose his child too
Why you want to overpopulate the world. As far as husbands are concerned ,they are like that only.
I would tell him to make up his mind....and stop having sex with him until he did. Or at least make him wear a condom. You cannot make him have a 3rd, if he really doesn't. But it isn't fair for him to be screwing with you either! Plus withdraw method isn't a good method..you can still get pregnant! Make sure you tell him that.
