My son has a fieldtrip coming up to new york city and the 6 day trip will be $800 that includes he stay at the hotel and his meals. My husband told my son he could go and then a week later when he got mad at me he told him he couldn't go. My son is disapointed and hurt because he has been talking to his friends about this trip. My husband said we couldn't afford it. We can afford it but we would have to save money and he doesnt want to do this. any help would be great thanks
Is my husband wrong for changing his mind?
Your husband is wrong to give permission and then withdraw it. His son will remember this until he dies, and maybe longer. He will have resentments that will never end. Big, big mistake.
Is my husband wrong for changing his mind?
Give your son permission to go and if hubby doesn't like it, tell him he has to go too....out that door.
I think it is wrong to tell a child they can do something like this and then take it back. Your son is very embarrassed and if your husband had doubts he should not have told your son he could go until he really knew he could afford it. Now your son is very embarrassed in front of his friends.
Wow .. How unfair of your husband .. He should have thought about your finances before you ever told your Son he could go ! Now that he has told your son he needs to stick to his word . The money problems in your home should not have anything to do with your son .. Your husband is the adult ! If I were you I would tell my husband that it is just not right for him to take back what he said to your son because he was upset with you .... Sounds more like he is being the childish one in the family !
I don't think he's wrong for changing his mind. This trip is not the end of the world.
I am not sure if your husband is wrong. But I know it is important for your son to learn by example
especially by %26quot;Dad%26quot;, to be a man of his word. If his reason is because he's mad at you, that doesn't seem right to take it out on your son.
Or is he honestly concerned about finances. It is possible, some men get emotionally confused and frustrated, and make decisions on feelings.
The most important thing would be (only my op ion), is the relationship with his son. He may find he needs his son one day, and his son may turn out to be the same as Dad.
the question is, can you really afford it and Dad to show some emotional control and explain to your son, his disappointment of not being able to afford it. That's real life.
Or admit he's human, and made a emotional decision, and apologize, and keep his word.
Either way there has to be Love, there are enough destroyed family relationships over money, instead of the value of life and those we love. Just love them both. It's not about taking sides, it trying to be understanding without division. You'vee heard, a house divided against itself cannot stand.
800 Dollars for a school trip seems high in the present economic situation where people are strapped financially.
However, your husband gave the permission for the boy to go already, and should stand by it - unless the boy did something that warrants punishment.
Your son could get a job after school and help pay for the trip!
Yes he is very wrong. It is two of you there, why does he decide. Stand up for your son! Put yourself in your son's shoes, wouldn't you want a hero? If he agreed to it at first, it means you can afford it.
SO YOUR HUSBAND GETS MAD AT YOU AND PUNISHES YOU GUYS CHILD.......HMMMMM
I can understand the finances part in today's economy, but yeah he should have thought of that before and if you can afford it just wait until your husband calms down then speak with him about it when your child is sleep etc.....
If you think he's being unreasonable, then write the check yourself and let your son go. He shouldn't make him suffer just because he's in a bad mood. I don't see how your financial situation could change so drastically in a week that he would have a real reason to change his mind.
Its more important that discipline be consistent and real. If you husband reverses himself again now and lets the kid go he will begin to learn to ignore any threats of punishment and eventually become unpunishable.
well i thibnk that your son should go on the trip because he's already talked about it with his friends and his dad already gave him the ok. If the financial situaiton is not good then do not crunch ur money to do this one trrip, there will be other trips. He can tell his friends he has to do something this week
Yes, your husband is wrong for changing his mind. He is trying to get back at you by being mean to your son. Since you refer to your child as %26quot;my son%26quot;, I'm assuming that your husband is his step father, not his biological father. If you're divorced, maybe you could talk to your son's dad, explain what happened and ask if he would be willing to pay for part of the trip. Then work out a plan with your son for him to earn the rest of the money by doing chores around the house and/or for neighbors and/or family members. If your son earns his own way, then your husband has nothing to say about it. This is also a valuable lesson for your son...God bless the child that's got his own.
